You've finally set up your online profile, and you've started looking at other profiles online. You've actually found a few that you are interested in. Well, don't just sit there, contact them. Send them anemail, or instant message, or even a wink, but only use that as a last resort. What I'm saying is, don't be lazy...do something about your interest. You never know what you might find.

Sending an email

This is by far the most effective way to communicate with someone, in my not-so-humble opinion. It allows you the chance to say something coherent, and show a little of who you are. It also shows that you have put a little effort into the potential relationship right from the start, rather than just sending a "wink" or a "tag" (more on these later). Of course, you don't want to spill your whole life's story in the initial email, and you definitely do not want to give out any contact information at first. You need to establish a level of trust before you should do that. And, apparently, people still need to be told that the "wanna f--k" emails DO NOT WORK!! It's lazy, rude, and just shows that you have no class and nothing to offer

Instant Messaging or Chat

Almost as effective as email, striking up a conversation via instant message or chat can help you get to know someone very quickly, and establish a line of communication between the two of you. This is exactly how I met my girlfriend, in fact. Just remember that there's a fine line between flirty and dirty, and you must be careful not to cross it (unless you are in an adult, uncensord chat room of course, in which case "dirty" is expected).

Winks, Tags, etc.

These are the most annoying features that any online dating service or social networking site every came up with. It takes very little time, and even less effort to send one, and all it says to me is "you're not important enough for me to take 2 minutes out of my day to send you a short message". The only exception I would make to this rule is if you are a member of a site that offers you no other option to contact other members (without paying for it), and you really cannot afford a paid membership.

Your potential mate could be out there looking for you, but they might pass you by if you don't show any interest in them, and don't take the time to contact then and establish a rapport with them. So, don't be lazy. Do something...now.