Respect for others - It sounds so simple, but it's very important to have, and show, respect for someone's wishes when you are in a relationship with them.  The person you are with has thoughts, feelings, dreams, opinions, and hopes, just like you.  It is crucial to keep the lines of communication open, and talk to your partner about these things.  It is critical to never, ever belittle or degrade someone because they think differently than you.  These feelings make this person (whom you are obviously attracted to) who they are.  You don't have to agree with them, but you must embrace them, respect them, and understand that their feelings are as important as yours.  And, you must never take actions or say things that are blatantly disrespectful to their feelings.  Questionable situations should be discussed openly and maturely, beforehand, not after the fact.

Respect Yourself - Never compromise who you are, or what you believe in.  Do NOT try to change who you are so someone else will have a better opinion of you.  You are who you are, not the you they want you to become.  If they are trying to change you, fix you, make you a person other than who you are, you will end up bitter and frustrated, and they will be disappointed and lonely.  Be upfront and honest about your beliefs and values, and never give them up.

Mutual respect is key to any good relationship.  Respect for others will continue to endear them to you, and self-respect will ensure that you are happy with yourself, and in the relationship.

This article is an excerpt from the book Missing Pieces: 21 Secrets of a Successful Relationship by Will Irvin, now available from Lulu.com in paperback, hardcover, and for download.