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Now, for the next big "secret" of a successful relationship. It's TRUST! Trust is a given in any good relationship. Believe me, if there is no trust, it's like building a house on a foundation of smoldering ashes.
There can be many reasons for a lack of trust in a relationship. I do not have room here to list all of them, but I'll cover some basic concepts. Maybe you've been hurt before. You cannot open yourself up to the one you are with because someone in your past hurt you. It is not fair to your current partner. They are not the one who hurt you, so they should not be punished. Believe me, it will become an issue. You need to open up to your current mate and let yourself trust them. Most importantly, you need to TALK TO THEM about it. You may just find out that their understanding and patience makes you want to open up to them that much more. On the other hand, if you are in a relationship and some breach of trust has occurred, you have a very important question to ask yourself: "Will I ever be able to trust this person again?" If the answer is no, you need to tell the other person that the relationship is over, and why. If the answer is yes or even maybe, you need to talk to your mate, and express your concerns about the situation to them. Talking to them about it may help you answer the question above. Regardless of the situation, or the reasons why trusting the other person may be difficult, a relationship will not last without trust between both partners. Even if there is no breach of trust, it is important to talk openly with your partner about it. Let them know that you trust them, and make sure they trust you as well. Keeping the communication lines open (both ways, not just one way), will go a long way to ensure the relationship be long-lasting and meaningful. |
